We’ve all got an idea of what our perfect life would be like. Whether it’s prancing through LA in a pair of Louboutins, sending work into the office from the comfort of your Hawaiian beach hut or even just having a bum that could rival the Kardashians’. There are millions of things we could think of that would make our lives ‘perfect’ and make us happier. But that’s where we’re wrong. Having all those things won’t make us any happier in the long run and its life’s imperfections we should be happy with.
So you may be stuck in a job you don’t like, unable to afford that new handbag you’ve been eyeing, or depriving yourself of carbs. Whatever it is you’re doing to try and attain perfection, it won’t work. What you need to change is your mindset, then everything you have will make you happy. I’m not saying you shouldn’t dream, on the contrary, you need to strive to achieve your dream otherwise you’re not taking advantage of what life has to offer. But whilst you’re striving to make your dream a reality, learn to love life the way it is.
I am the worst culprit for not living in the moment. I have spent the last 7 years of my life trying to chase the dream of becoming a news reporter, being sent out on exciting investigations to reveal the truth to the world and be hailed as one of the best reporters of the 21st century. I know I know, it sounds unrealistic. But I don’t care and I am determined to make this dream my reality. The problem is I recently realised that in chasing this dream I was barely taking in the present and being happy with what I had in that moment. Of course this led to me feeling that I never quite had it all and therefore I was unhappy.
But lo and behold I have turned this around. What’s the point in spending so much time in your life not appreciating it or taking it in? That’s crazy! Life is so short. Plus I realised recently that if I carried on the way I was going then one day I was going to be consumed with anger and resentment at not being able to get everything I want as quickly as I want it to come. Yeh sure I want those Chanel boots a hell of a lot, and if I had my dream job I’d be able to afford them, but who knows if I would actually be happier? I think I would be, but a dream isn’t a dream anymore when it’s your reality. The magic of it might eventually wear off, but the journey of life itself is always magical.
I’ve learnt to live in the moment, whilst still working towards the dream. I’m so much happier now that I appreciate not only what I have but how much more I have compared to a year ago. Think of how far you’ve come rather than how much further you have to go. That’s the key to being happy and loving this crazy rollercoaster we call life.